i’ve never had black glasses before because brown suits my skin tone well, but i’ve always wanted them… but i KNOW tortoiseshell looks good. hrm.
i guess what i’m really asking is… which ones are more effective for a “naughty librarian” look?
i also LOVE these ones but i don’t think they are included in the sale…
(supposedly these will be free minus shipping & handling? in canada today?)
If we are ever unsure about what femme should be or how to be femme, we must move toward the ugly. Not just the ugly in ourselves, but the people and communities that are ugly, undesirable, unwanted, disposable, hidden, displaced. This is the only way that we will ever create a femme-ness that can hold physically disabled folks, dark skinned people, trans and gender non-conforming folks, poor and working class folks, HIV positive folks, people living in the global south and so many more of us who are the freaks, monsters, criminals, villains of our fairytales, movies, news stories, neighborhoods and world. This is our work as femmes of color: to take the notion of beauty (and most importantly the value placed upon it) and dismantle it (challenge it), not just in gender, but wherever it is being used to harm people, to exclude people, to shame people; as a justification for violence, colonization and genocide.” —
Moving Toward the Ugly: A Politic Beyond Desirability - Mia Mingus (via enumerate)
i’ve talked a lot about this with friends lately, mostly in direct response to the “everyone is beautiful” message pedaled by a lot of (well-meaning) liberal feminists. this can be used in any number of problematic ways, “you’re not fat, you’re beautiful!” it also serves to deny the fact that we live in a society that:
- constantly reinforces the bullshit idea that a girl/woman’s self-worth lies solely in her appearance
- that projects a “beauty standard” that is unrealistic and unattainable, on top of being racist, cissexist, ableist, classist aaaaand just a wee bit oppressive.
yes, some people find empowerment in “beauty.” but why can’t we reclaim ugly? i love the way mia mingus puts this.
i’m writing a brief piece for my fanzine about how personal style and mental illness interact, specifically in terms of those of us with ‘invisible disabilities’- if you have a mental illness, how does it affect the way you dress? the questions I’m posing to people are meant to be simple so they can be answered a variety of ways:
1. how would you describe your style & in what ways do you feel your relationship to mental illness manifests itself in the way you dress?
2. and how do you use clothing and appearance manipulation in terms of self care?
everything will be kept anonymous so if you’re willing to answer those questions for me, you can send the responses to my ask box (or if they’re too long, contact me for my email address!)
hey everybody! do this if you want to! it can just be a few casual sentences, and i’m keeping everything anonymous. the purpose of collecting personal accounts from people is to showcase a broad variety of situations, styles, self-care tactics, etc, to be published in a list of testimonials for other people to relate to and be inspired by. i would hate to be the only voice present in this conversation, so please submit!!
SIGNAL BOOST. going to email this to a few friends too.